A comment on assertiveness

I know from personal experience that when you first become more assertive, your closest friends, family and colleagues may have problems adjusting to your new behaviour. They may even feel threatened by it.

Of course, you don’t want to be knocked back to where you were, and why should you? Just be sensitive to their feelings until they’ve got used to the new you.

Genuinely assertive people use their skills responsibly. They know when to ‘chill out’ and when to ‘come on strong’, and they never deliberately hurt others’ feelings.

So whenever you’re faced with a choice of showing how right you are and simply being kind, ask yourself whether it really matters, and if it doesn’t – choose kind!

©David Lawrence Preston, 24.6.2016

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