The Law of Reciprocity IS the Golden Rule

The Law of Reciprocity is the Golden Rule. It is usually stated as: ‘Treat everyone as you like to be treated.’ However this is not quite right. Others have their own values and preferences that you may not share. They may not want to be treated the same. Therefore the Law of Reciprocity is better expressed as:

Treat everyone as they would like to be treated.’

Of course most people like to feel accepted, approved of, respected, listened to and appreciated. This is common to all.


 ‘How far you go in life depends on your being tender with the young, compassionate with the aged, sympathetic with the striving, and tolerant of the weak and strong; because someday in your life, you will have been all of these.’

George Washington Carver

Compassion should be at the core of all our speech and action. Imagine what the world would be like if everybody were more compassionate? How many global problems could be solved? When we show compassion to others, we benefit everyone including ourselves.  Studies show that when a person is a recipient of a kind act, seretonin (the neurotransmitter that promotes a good feeling in the brain) is stimulated and the immune system strengthened. The same is true for the person who acts kindly. Even observing an act of kindness has the same effect.

A few kind words cost nothing yet are worth so much to both recipient and giver.

We are all aware of what hurts and what heals. Think about what you say before you open your mouth. If you’re tempted to speak to someone unkindly, think about how you would feel if someone said that to you.

The Law of Reciprocity reminds us that we get back what we give out. Thoughts create effects which rebound, and so do words and actions. If you want more friends, be friendlier; if more love, be more loving; if more happiness, help others to be happy. Every time you meet another’s needs, you meet needs of your own and feel better about yourself.


©David Lawrence Preston, 5.12.2016

Facebook and Twitter

Follow me on Facebook and Twitter @David_L_Preston

365 Spirituality book

How to Books, 2007


Compassion Is Good Medicine

As a result of pioneering neuro-biologists such as Dr Candace Pert (author of ‘The Molecules of Emotion’) we now know that the traditional notion of a mind-body split makes no sense whatsoever. The central nervous system, controlled by the brain, extends to every cell in the body via chemical receptors and neuro-transmitters.

Moreover, the evidence is mounting that kindness cures and happiness heals. Sympathy and understanding are not merely ‘nice little extras’- they are good medicine. Patients benefit enormously when their emotional needs are attended to. Helping people to manage upset feelings helps prevent disease and aid recovery.

This is one of the reasons why more and more people are looking to holistic healing methods which treat the root cause of the problem, not just the symptoms and honours the whole person as a physical, mental, emotional, energetic and spiritual being.

Fortunately the medical profession is beginning to change. Some hospitals now offer counselling to help patients with their social and emotional problems. This is not just for sentimental reasons: it makes good financial sense too. It helps prevent further problems and cuts the cost of treatment.

Compassion is good medicine, and the medical profession are at last waking up!


©David Lawrence Preston, 7.7.2016

Facebook and Twitter

Follow me on Facebook and Twitter @feelinggoodatt