Your Inner Power

We all have a unique and wonderful power within us which holds the key to our ultimate happiness and fulfillment. It originates from the way we think, and what we imagine, say and do.

This inner power is non-physical. When we are attuned to it and allow it to guide and support us we are enriched in every way. We are happy, prosperous and at peace. We have the courage to follow our dreams.

There’s a Native American parable about an Indian brave who found an eagle’s egg when out hunting. He took it back to his village and placed it among some eggs being hatched by a hen. In due course, the eaglet was hatched along with the baby chicks. As it grew, it scratched the earth with its claws and pecked at worms on the ground. It learned how to flap its wings like the other baby chicks. It even clucked like a chicken.

Then one day when he was old, he looked up and saw a magnificent bird gliding across the clear blue sky. He was in awe. ‘What’s that?’ he asked the chicken next to him. ‘That’s the Golden Eagle, the king of the birds,’ came the reply, ‘but don’t you try that. We can’t fly. We are chickens.’ The old eagle never gave it another thought and died, as he had lived, thinking he was a chicken.

You are an ‘eagle’. But do you think, feel and act like one? Or do you think and behave more like a chicken?

Oprah Winfrey once said: ‘People do what they know how to do, and when they know better they do better.’ In other words, we all have the means to raise our consciousness, improve our lives, be happier and play our part in making the world a kinder, more loving place.

Some find this a rather frightening prospect. At the start of a recent seminar, I promised participants that they would feel happier, more fulfilled, less stressed and more at peace with themselves if they took on board the ideas presented that day. Immediately a smartly dressed lady rose from her seat and left. ‘I’m sorry,’ she said, ‘I’ve made a mistake. This isn’t for me.’

Down the years I have acquired a vast number of insights and shared them with thousands through my teaching, speaking and coaching. They have worked for everyone who applied them. But don’t take my word for it – find out for yourself. You will soon find out how powerful they are.

What Do You Really Want?

When it comes to deciding what we want out of life, most of us set our horizons low. Generally people want to be happy, healthy, prosperous and secure; to feel good about themselves, have a circle of friends, good family relationships, peace of mind, and work which is personally fulfilling and makes full use of their talents; a variety of social and leisure pursuits, happiness and fun. They also want to be respected by others, to love and be loved, and be free.

Does this ring true for you?

  • Do you love what you do?
  • When you feel frustrated, do you still maintain a deep feeling that what you’re doing is right for you?
  • Is there anything you’d rather be doing?
  • Do you cope easily with the stress in your life?
  • Do you have a positive attitude most days?
  • Are you prosperous?
  • Do you enjoy rewarding relationships with most of the people you meet?
  • Do you feel enthusiastic about life generally?

In the past, a sign of success was having time that wasn’t committed to earning a living. Do you find a deep sense of satisfaction and fulfillment from your, or do you work mainly for the money?  If you work only to earn money, you will always feel poor! There are many unhappy millionaires, and many relatively poor people who enjoy contentment and peace of mind.

Imagine the kind of life you would like to lead. Think about this carefully. Be aware that one of the main reasons why people don’t get what they want out of life is that they’re not clear on what they want.

Which of these are these important to you?

  • Being able to live as you choose and do what you want, making your own choices, not beholden to others.
  • Being able to use your time as you wish.
  • Knowing that life has some meaning for you and that you feel good about what you do.
  • Health – being free from illness and having sufficient energy to carry you through each day.
  • Enjoying the people you live with, including your partner, your children and wider family.
  • The pleasure that comes from an active, varied and fulfilling social life.
  • Interests and pastimes that provide enjoyment and take your mind off the pressures of life.
  • The satisfaction of knowing that you have made a contribution to society. You don’t have to make a global impact –  helping those around you is just as important.
  • Enjoying life and trusting that things work out for the best.
  • Feeling good about yourself and growing as an individual.
  • Being comfortable with yourself as a spiritual being.
  • Have I missed any?

Many people have never given these questions much thought; but without clarity our inner power is stifled, like the eagle that thinks it’s a chicken!

©David Lawrence Preston, 6.5.18, all rights reserved.

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Transform yourself by the renewal of your mind

Your self-esteem is a set of thoughts which manifest in attitudes, emotions and behaviours. If it needs a makeover, apply the I-T-I-A Formula. Remember: all four parts are necessary to effect permanent change.

Intention: Decide right now that you’ll treat yourself with love and respect, and accept only what is right for you.

Thinking: Monitor your self-talk, examine your beliefs, and use affirmations to re-align your thinking. Self-deprecating thoughts have nothing to sustain them other than our own habits.

Imagination: Create the person you want to be in your imagination, knowing that he/she will eventually become the reality.

Action: Let your intentions, thinking and imagination show in your behaviour.  If this feels uncomfortable at first, take it in small steps, ignore any discomfort, and above all persist. Consistent action based on right thinking always brings results.

Persistence and determination are key. Let nothing get in the way of your quest for confidence,  high self-esteem and inner peace. Stretch yourself a little every day. Each success, however small, brings encouragement..

©David Lawrence Preston, 16.1.2017

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Positive Self-Talk

Plato remarked correctly that when the mind is thinking, it is talking to itself. Our internal dialogue (or ‘self-talk’) can help build a wonderful life or play havoc with everything we do – if we allow it.

One study revealed that continually using negative words and phrases can bring about a decline in our memory capabilities and an overall drop in our physical performance. In contrast, people who habitually use positive words report an improvement in memory and an increase in physical performance.

You can take control of your Self-Talk by carefully choosing the words you use. This is more important than most people think. Words are expressions of ideas, and ideas shape your life. But words shape ideas too, as anyone who has read George Orwell’s ‘1984’ will know. In this, his masterpiece, Big Brother deliberately restricts the choice of words available to the population so that ordinary people would be incapable of thinking a rebellious thought. The forces of ‘political correctness’ use much the same approach.

When you are careful about the words you use, especially if at the same time you you’re your chosen words some energy by, for instance, changing your posture, tone of voice and body language, you feel differently. You feel stronger emotionally.

You can remove or soften the impact of a negative thought, or change it to a positive. Positive words, backed up with positive physiology, have a big impact on the emotions. Try this:

Slump down in a chair and tell yourself you feel ‘miserable’. Notice how you feel.

Now look up and tell yourself you feel ‘a little low’. Notice how you feel.

Now smile and tell yourself you feel ‘cheerful’. Notice how you feel.

Empowering words and phrases

Here are a few words and phrases that really energise, and some to avoid:

The best sentences start with empowering words such as ‘I can’, ‘I am’, ‘I do’, ‘I have’. If at first they don’t feel right (for example, if you feel as if you’re lying to yourself), remember, you’re not trying to mislead yourself, but bring about beneficial changes in your way of thinking that will eventually manifest as new feelings and behaviour.

Change ‘I must’ or ‘I have to’ to ‘I choose’ or ‘I prefer’. This impresses on the unconscious that you are deliberately making your own choices.

Similarly, drop any phrases that make it seem you’re stuck in the past. So, ‘That’s just the way I am/it is’ becomes ‘I can choose a different approach’, and ‘There’s nothing I can do’ is transformed into, ‘Let’s look at the alternatives’.

Make a habit of using words that create good feelings – words like health, happy, loving, kind, relaxed, affectionate, beautiful, successful, enjoy, peace and so on.

Henry Ford famously said, ‘If you think you can, or think you can’t, either way you’re quite right.’’I can’t’ sends a harmful messages to the unconscious. It renders you incapable or less capable than you really are. Change to, ‘I can’ or, if this is too big a leap all at once, ‘I would find it difficult at the moment, but I can learn/improve.’

‘Shoulds’ and ‘Shouldn’ts’

Shoulds and shouldn’ts and their close relatives, ought, must, got to, and so on. These phrases infer that there are fixed rules limiting our options, or that someone else is making our decisions for us. Frequent use of shoulds and shouldn’ts is often a sign that a dominant parent figure or strong religious or cultural programming is controlling our thinking.

Shoulds and shouldn’ts come in three main forms:

  • Shoulds related to ourselves,  our capabilities and/or our conduct, such as, ‘I should do better,’ ‘I mustn’t do that.’ Change to ‘I choose,’ ‘I decide,’ or ‘I prefer’.
  • Shoulds related to life and other people, e.g. ‘People shouldn’t behave like that,’ or ‘Things should be different.’  Such thoughts inevitably bring disappointment, irritation and even anger since the world is most unlikely to conform to our wishes all the time.
  • What would XYZ think? This reveals a strong need for others’ approval. Obviously there is nothing wrong with wanting to be liked and accepted by others, but it becomes damaging when we feel we have to edit ourselves to win that approval. Let these thoughts go, centre yourself, and instead tune in to what you think is best.

For example:

  • It shouldn’t be allowed.
  • People should be kinder to each other.
  • Children should have more respect for their elders.
  • It’s not fair!
  • They (politicians, the authorities etc.) should do something about it.

Now you:

People use words differently. Everyone has their own favourite words and phrases, so come up with a list of words that create negative feelings in you, and write a list of alternative words and phrases that you could use instead.

Now make a list of words and phrases that make you feel good. Put your list somewhere you will see them every day. When you look at your list, breathe deeply and smile to yourself.

I promise you, put these ideas into practice and you’ll quickly notice your life changing for the better!

 

© David Lawrence Preston, 25.3.2016

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