Is it wrong to love yourself?  Some people think so. They think of people who love themselves as being rather unpleasant,  selfish and conceited.

But loving yourself is not the same as being in love with yourself. This is usually a form of bravado indulged in by individuals who think too little of themselves and desperately try to hide it.

To love yourself, you don’t have to do everything perfectly. You don’t have to prove anything. You don’t even have to do your best.

Self-love benefits others too, for only when you have love for yourself can you share it with others. Disliking oneself is no way to spread love and help others to feel better about themselves.


Self-acceptance is closely related to self-love. Self-acceptance means acknowledging what you are and respecting all aspects of yourself.

It does not mean giving up on yourself. If there’s something you want to change that is worth changing, change it. Do it lovingly.

As your capacity for self-love grows, other changes occur too. You become more tolerant, calm, compassionate and peaceful. Others feel better in your presence (animals are also very quick to pick up on this.) You instill calmness and confidence in others.

©David Lawrence Preston 18.1.2017

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A Miracle of Creation

When you were a child, did anyone tell you that you were a miracle of creation, made of the same stuff as the stars, and that everything in the universe plays its part in supporting you?

I thought not. If you were schooled in certain religions, you were more likely to be told that you were a humble sinner rather than a boundless Child of Spirit.

Then for many it gets worse. Very few young people reach maturity without having their self-esteem dented by clumsy or insensitive programming. Some psychologists believe childhood experiences lay down the pattern for life and can never be surmounted, but this is simply not true. What determines your self-esteem is not your upbringing, but your beliefs about it and your attitude to yourself now. And these are entirely within your control.

If you think of yourself as anything less than perfect and imagine yourself as less worthy than anybody else, you are selling yourself short!

‘The moment you accept yourself as you are, all burdens, all mountainous burdens, simply disappear. Then life is a sheer joy, a festival of lights.’


You are your gift to the world, so make it as good as it can be. Seek out  that which can help you in your personal and spiritual growth. Let nothing get in the way of your quest for spiritual awareness, self-esteem and inner peace.

©David Lawrence Preston, 9.1.2017

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