Author: David Lawrence Preston
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Three Ways Not to Handle Emotions
People go to ridiculous lengths to suppress uncomfortable feelings – alcohol, smoking, drugs, gambling, overeating etc. These can work in the short-term, but are they wise? Obviously there is nothing wrong with enjoying an occasional drink and so on, but if these tactics are used to mask or suppress painful emotions, you could be storing…
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The Third Principle of Relationships
The Third Principle of relationships is: Unless you have a genuine interest in others, your relationships will never be fulfilling. Your attitudes manifest in the way you conduct yourself and is sensed by others. It’s simple: if you dislike people, have little interest in them and are constantly judging and criticising, you alienate them. Relationships…
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The Second Principle of Relationships
The Second Principle of relationships is: If you want a relationship to succeed, you must take responsibility for the relationship. The fundamental truth about relationships is this: other people are primarily interested in themselves, not you. They are primarily governed by self-interest (as are you). So the more important you make a person feel, the…
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Conditions of worth
Although the relationship you have with yourself is the most important, you also have to deal with the demands others place on you. We are put under tremendous pressure in society to conform to attitudes and behaviour patterns which are not necessarily of our choosing, especially children. They assess their self-worth mainly by how others…
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Humans are emotional creatures
We kid ourselves that we are intelligent, rational beings, but we’re not. Most humans are more inclined to act emotionally than ‘logically’, and emotions can ruin our ability to think clearly. Mastery of the emotions, especially the ability to stay calm under pressure and bounce back after defeat, is the key to success in many…
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PainLess Doctor
A month ago I left an AcuPearl PainLess on a trial basis with a Doctor of Chiropractic who had been on painkiller for chronic pain for many years. He used it every day found that the pain was so much better he was able to cut down on the painkillers. He also stated that he…
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The First Principle of Relationships
The first (and overriding) principle of relationships is this: Every relationship involves a mutual fulfilling of needs If you fulfill someone else’s needs, they want to maintain and deepen your relationship. If you don’t, they’ll avoid you or minimise their contact with you. Think about it – do you like spending time with people who…
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Self-esteem is happiness and success
Self-esteem is happiness, success and a whole lot besides. It governs your behaviour in every area of your life and without it you’ll almost certainly underachieve. Self-esteem is the experience of feeling that you’re worthy of happiness and capable dealing with life. It’s a combination of self-confidence (beliefs about your capabilities) and self-respect (beliefs about…
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The art of relating – eight principles
‘It is the individual who is not interested in his fellow men who has the greatest difficulties in life and provides the greatest injury to others. It is from among such individuals that all human failures spring.’ Alfred Adler Human beings are interdependent. We need fulfilling relationships. We need others to turn to. Relationships are…
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Memory – what it is and how it works
Without memory, we would greet every new experience and every new piece of information in the same way as a new born baby. Memory is the mental function which enables us to retain information, images and ideas when the original stimuli are no longer present. No memory is ever permanently erased (unless you suffer brain…