Category: Assertiveness
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A comment on assertiveness
I know from personal experience that when you first become more assertive, your closest friends, family and colleagues may have problems adjusting to your new behaviour. They may even feel threatened by it. Of course, you don’t want to be knocked back to where you were, and why should you? Just be sensitive to their…
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Handling Confrontation
Most people dislike confrontation, but if you have confidence in yourself and know how to diffuse aggression you need not be unduly worried by it. Try the following: Empathic statements Stay calm, listen attentively and show that you recognise how the other person feels by acknowledging their feelings. This often diffuses a situation when tempers…
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How to be more assertive
Even if you’ve never considered yourself a particularly assertive person, mastering a few basic techniques can help you to develop this essential skill. Start with small steps and stretch yourself a little more each day as your confidence grows. The basic rules are: Choose your outcomes. Decide what you want after consider the consequences. Adopt…
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Why not ask for what you want?
You’d be amazed how many opportunities open up when you ask for what you want. Often, asking is all we have to do, but many of us don’t bother. Why don’t more people ask for what they want more often? There are six main reasons: Six reasons why people don’t ask for what they want…
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Assertiveness is self-empowerment in action
‘This above all: to thine own self be true And it must follow, as the night the day, Thou canst not then be false to any man.’ William Shakespeare Your personal power is expressed primarily in your interactions with others. Remember, you always have the right to: Express your feelings (but you must decide when…