Tag: coaching
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The Fifth Principle of Relationships
The Fifth Principle of Relationships is: Relate to others on an emotional level. Have you ever wondered why some people get on with everybody? It’s usually because they understand that relationships are formed at an emotional level. Sometimes it’s instinctive – but not always. If you have empathy, it’s easier to build friendships and quickly…
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The Fourth Principle of Relationships
The fourth principle is: Recognise that it is impossible to fake an interest in others The most popular people are usually those who are genuinely interested in others. This cannot be faked because you project your thoughts and feelings to others in many subtle and not-so-subtle ways. If you’re pretending, others know. Your facial expression,…
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Three Ways Not to Handle Emotions
People go to ridiculous lengths to suppress uncomfortable feelings – alcohol, smoking, drugs, gambling, overeating etc. These can work in the short-term, but are they wise? Obviously there is nothing wrong with enjoying an occasional drink and so on, but if these tactics are used to mask or suppress painful emotions, you could be storing…
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The Third Principle of Relationships
The Third Principle of relationships is: Unless you have a genuine interest in others, your relationships will never be fulfilling. Your attitudes manifest in the way you conduct yourself and is sensed by others. It’s simple: if you dislike people, have little interest in them and are constantly judging and criticising, you alienate them. Relationships…
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The Second Principle of Relationships
The Second Principle of relationships is: If you want a relationship to succeed, you must take responsibility for the relationship. The fundamental truth about relationships is this: other people are primarily interested in themselves, not you. They are primarily governed by self-interest (as are you). So the more important you make a person feel, the…
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The First Principle of Relationships
The first (and overriding) principle of relationships is this: Every relationship involves a mutual fulfilling of needs If you fulfill someone else’s needs, they want to maintain and deepen your relationship. If you don’t, they’ll avoid you or minimise their contact with you. Think about it – do you like spending time with people who…
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The art of relating – eight principles
‘It is the individual who is not interested in his fellow men who has the greatest difficulties in life and provides the greatest injury to others. It is from among such individuals that all human failures spring.’ Alfred Adler Human beings are interdependent. We need fulfilling relationships. We need others to turn to. Relationships are…
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Why not ask for what you want?
You’d be amazed how many opportunities open up when you ask for what you want. Often, asking is all we have to do, but many of us don’t bother. Why don’t more people ask for what they want more often? There are six main reasons: Six reasons why people don’t ask for what they want…
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Managing your money – ten golden rules
Know where you stand Be aware of your financial position. How much do you have? If you owe money, how much do you owe? If you’re in trouble, acknowledge it. Acceptance of your situation doesn’t necessarily mean liking it, but it does put you in the right frame of mind to do something about it.…
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Finding purpose and meaning in your life
There is ultimately only one route to success that brings true happiness: find a purpose that excites you and pursue it, using your talents and potential to the full. In her book, ‘The Fourth Instinct’, Arianna Huffington writes: ‘Give a gibbon a mate, a peaceful stretch of jungle and plenty of figs to munch on,…