Tag: communication
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A comment on assertiveness
I know from personal experience that when you first become more assertive, your closest friends, family and colleagues may have problems adjusting to your new behaviour. They may even feel threatened by it. Of course, you don’t want to be knocked back to where you were, and why should you? Just be sensitive to their…
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Handling Confrontation
Most people dislike confrontation, but if you have confidence in yourself and know how to diffuse aggression you need not be unduly worried by it. Try the following: Empathic statements Stay calm, listen attentively and show that you recognise how the other person feels by acknowledging their feelings. This often diffuses a situation when tempers…
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How to be more assertive
Even if you’ve never considered yourself a particularly assertive person, mastering a few basic techniques can help you to develop this essential skill. Start with small steps and stretch yourself a little more each day as your confidence grows. The basic rules are: Choose your outcomes. Decide what you want after consider the consequences. Adopt…
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Why not ask for what you want?
You’d be amazed how many opportunities open up when you ask for what you want. Often, asking is all we have to do, but many of us don’t bother. Why don’t more people ask for what they want more often? There are six main reasons: Six reasons why people don’t ask for what they want…
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Assertiveness is self-empowerment in action
‘This above all: to thine own self be true And it must follow, as the night the day, Thou canst not then be false to any man.’ William Shakespeare Your personal power is expressed primarily in your interactions with others. Remember, you always have the right to: Express your feelings (but you must decide when…
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Winning Conversation
As a shy young man I had to teach myself to converse with other people, and it is these experiences that enable me to help others today. Good conversation is a great confidence builder. It’s vital in building relationships and mutual understanding. It’s how we get to know each other. Talk to anyone for ten…
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Is Public Speaking Your Number One Fear?
Many people have an intense fear of public speaking. Shame. The ability to say a few well-chosen words to a social or business gathering is a skill that can enrich all areas of your life and it’s something anyone can learn. Public speaking is one of the best ways of building your confidence. Why not…
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Creating Rapport
Rapport is an emotional bond or connection between two or more individuals. Creating rapport is the art of bridging the gap between people. It’s often said that opposites attract. This may work for the poles of a magnet, but not for humans. We say ‘birds of a feather stick together, and it’s true. People different…
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Conversation Skills
As a naturally shy and socially clumsy young person, I had to teach myself to converse with others. Why was it so important? Because I realized that way we talk to others says a great deal about us and makes all the difference between them seeking out our company or not. Here’s a few thing…
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The Science of Sexual Attraction
Sexual attraction is one of the most powerful forms of non-verbal communication. It requires no words – the body gives out plenty of signals. The chemistry that sparks off attraction is hard to pin down. There are, though, ways of sending out signals to interest another person, avoid making unintentional overtures, or detect whether someone…