Tag: confidence
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Conditions of worth
Although the relationship you have with yourself is the most important, you also have to deal with the demands others place on you. We are put under tremendous pressure in society to conform to attitudes and behaviour patterns which are not necessarily of our choosing, especially children. They assess their self-worth mainly by how others…
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Self-esteem is happiness and success
Self-esteem is happiness, success and a whole lot besides. It governs your behaviour in every area of your life and without it you’ll almost certainly underachieve. Self-esteem is the experience of feeling that you’re worthy of happiness and capable dealing with life. It’s a combination of self-confidence (beliefs about your capabilities) and self-respect (beliefs about…
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Faith and the ‘As If’ Principle
‘Faith is the substance of things hoped for, the evidence of things not seen.’ Paul of Tarsus Faith has nothing to do with blindly accepting someone else’s religious beliefs. It is simply trusting the process of life as expressed in the great spiritual laws such as the Laws of Cause and Effect, Attraction, Forgiveness and…
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How to access your Inner Power
You have a wonderful power within you. Consider the moment of your birth. At the instant your umbilical cord was cut, you became a separate human being, full of possibilities, charged with spiritual energy. You had within you the seeds of everything you needed to build a happy and fulfilling life. All you needed was…
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The Art of Persuasion
Persuasion is not merely getting others to agree, but making them feel good about it too. It means offering convincing reasons in language they understand, so they see our ideas as consistent with their best interests. A great deal of research has been done on persuasion. The principles below are based on some of these…
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Negotiate to Win-Win
Negotiation is not just a business activity – it’s part of everyday life. Many people dread it. They fear they’ll be outsmarted. For most, it’s simply a question of calmness and confidence. There’s no need to be apprehensive if you follow a few simple guidelines and of course, the more you practise, the better you…
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How to resolve everyday conflicts
The challenge with everyday conflict is not to avoid it (which is almost impossible) but to settle it quickly, learn from it and move on. The fact is, everyone knows how to upset their nearest and dearest because they have inadvertently taught each other over time what hurts the most. Conflict is best resolved by:…
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Receiving criticism
Constructive criticism given by someone who is genuinely concerned for you can be very valuable. When someone criticizes you, before you respond consider: Where are they coming from? Are they really concerned for my welfare or projecting their own issues onto me? People who constantly criticize others are usually critical of themselves. They project these…
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A comment on assertiveness
I know from personal experience that when you first become more assertive, your closest friends, family and colleagues may have problems adjusting to your new behaviour. They may even feel threatened by it. Of course, you don’t want to be knocked back to where you were, and why should you? Just be sensitive to their…
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Handling Confrontation
Most people dislike confrontation, but if you have confidence in yourself and know how to diffuse aggression you need not be unduly worried by it. Try the following: Empathic statements Stay calm, listen attentively and show that you recognise how the other person feels by acknowledging their feelings. This often diffuses a situation when tempers…